So Many Words . . . So Little Communication

Being a writer and communicator, I spend a lot of time reading and listening to other people. I especially enjoy learning from others as I read their work and listen to their oration.

One thing I've noticed that runs contrary to the desires of most people who find themselves in a conversational exchange is that the majority of people would rather talk than listen. It's such a simple rule of great conversation, yet it's so often disregarded . . . listen more than you talk.

I have made a living by being willing to listen far more than I speak. The dividends of being patient enough to be an interested listener are huge. Not only do you learn far more than you ever dreamed possible, but you also win the goodwill of the people to whom you were willing to listen.

If you ever take time to read through the Book of Proverbs (Bible) - you will be amazed at how often, and how pointed, the references to speech, to conversation and to attitude within conversational exhanges are.

Reading Proverbs would be a very good starting point for anyone who is seriously interested in becoming a great interpersonal communicator - take a few hours and have a look - I guarantee you won't be disappointed

Dictionary of Emerging Terms and Phrases

First off let me set the record straight - I love what is happening in certain sectors of the church world. I am a true fan of what is happening through Catalyst even though I don't fit the age demographic that makes up the majority of Catalyst devotees. I love what is happening in certain segments of what is commonly called the emergent church; and I can't help but love what is coming out of the missional church movement.

I have the unique advantage of working on behalf of the church here in the US by working with a ministry that provides week-long, self-directed retreats for pastors and their spouses. Having this position allows me to meet with pastors from all across the country either in-person or via email.

Regardless of how I become acquainted with pastors or parachurch ministries that support the church, the one thing that I have found bordering on the edge of hilarity is the buzz words that we have adopted and use in much of our communication with one another.

Interestingly, because I work with all flavors of pastors and denominations, I have to be very careful when communicating with these various individuals and groups. For instance, when meeting with a pastor from the GARBC (General Association of Regular Baptist Churhes) I probably would not talk about Body Prayer.

Conversely when meeting with pastors from newly planted urban churches that are committed to community life and missional living, I probably wouldn't ask about who they were planning to choose as their choir robe vendor.

So . . . all that to say, I've learned a lot by listening to these wonderful and highly diverse friends, so much so that I feel compelled to create a Dictionary of Christian Terms and Phrases. I see this dictionary being of great help to newly minted Christian who venture out beyond the borders of one or two church expressions. I can also see a dictionary of this sort being invaluable for parachurch fundraisers who are charged with the responsibility of calling on as many churches as possible to present their ministry offerings. Talk about walking through a mine field.

Let me know what you think about such an idea - either leave a comment here or email me directly at jhwatters@gmail.com